I’m definitely not a list kind of person when it came to finding someone. I trusted my gut, every single time. Granted, I’ve only been married once, but I trusted my gut with every relationship. If it felt right, I just knew. Even if it was only temporary. Everything is a learning experience, right? I just hope that when your friend does find the girl that knocks his socks off, he doesn’t dump her because she failed an item on his list! Tina´s last [type] ..A Bittersweet Existence
Dawana:
August 17th, 2010 at 5:50 pm
Thanks, Tina. Me too. He’s sweet, we want him to be happy.
Lecia:
August 18th, 2010 at 5:12 pm
I agree with your friend. I have 2 lists. One for the special person who will try to come into my life, and one if the doctors tell me I am going to die. Makes a lot of sense to me.
Beale:
August 18th, 2010 at 5:41 pm
I think certain standards are important. You get to a point in your life and you just know that you need certain things to be true. They are make or break things for you. I think its important not to bury those beliefs because they will come out eventually. However, I also think there is no such thing as a life plan…at least not one you can completely follow, and if you start with your list instead of starting with openess you might just come to final conclusions about someone before you really know them at all.
well personally I like lists. It helps me make my thoughts tangilble.
I think his list is sensible for the most part. However they would have to be so in tune with the whole no kids thing – now that’s a big one. It is good to have lists but it is even better to be flexible and go with your heart. Lucy´s last [type] ..Operation TTC
Shem:
August 19th, 2010 at 5:57 am
LOL…somehow I think I know the “20 something friend” you are talking about. I actually don’t think his list is that far fetched. Heck I pretty much a have all of those qualities except number 11. Hell, I have a hard time just making it to work everyday on time…and I’m taken so that defeats the purpose. However, I think it is okay to have a list as long as you don’t swear by it. It’s one thing if you have characteristics in mind of what you want that special person to have but in line with Tina’s comment, you can’t just disregard a good girl if she doesn’t have one or two of the characteristics on the list. You may end up missing out on a good thing.
Tina:
August 17th, 2010 at 5:46 pm
I’m definitely not a list kind of person when it came to finding someone. I trusted my gut, every single time. Granted, I’ve only been married once, but I trusted my gut with every relationship. If it felt right, I just knew. Even if it was only temporary. Everything is a learning experience, right? I just hope that when your friend does find the girl that knocks his socks off, he doesn’t dump her because she failed an item on his list!
Tina´s last [type] ..A Bittersweet Existence
Dawana:
August 17th, 2010 at 5:50 pm
Thanks, Tina. Me too. He’s sweet, we want him to be happy.
Lecia:
August 18th, 2010 at 5:12 pm
I agree with your friend. I have 2 lists. One for the special person who will try to come into my life, and one if the doctors tell me I am going to die. Makes a lot of sense to me.
Beale:
August 18th, 2010 at 5:41 pm
I think certain standards are important. You get to a point in your life and you just know that you need certain things to be true. They are make or break things for you. I think its important not to bury those beliefs because they will come out eventually. However, I also think there is no such thing as a life plan…at least not one you can completely follow, and if you start with your list instead of starting with openess you might just come to final conclusions about someone before you really know them at all.
Lucy:
August 19th, 2010 at 12:52 am
well personally I like lists. It helps me make my thoughts tangilble.
I think his list is sensible for the most part. However they would have to be so in tune with the whole no kids thing – now that’s a big one. It is good to have lists but it is even better to be flexible and go with your heart.
Lucy´s last [type] ..Operation TTC
Shem:
August 19th, 2010 at 5:57 am
LOL…somehow I think I know the “20 something friend” you are talking about. I actually don’t think his list is that far fetched. Heck I pretty much a have all of those qualities except number 11. Hell, I have a hard time just making it to work everyday on time…and I’m taken so that defeats the purpose. However, I think it is okay to have a list as long as you don’t swear by it. It’s one thing if you have characteristics in mind of what you want that special person to have but in line with Tina’s comment, you can’t just disregard a good girl if she doesn’t have one or two of the characteristics on the list. You may end up missing out on a good thing.