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Said female has to meet his list of requirements before passing the test. He recently came to visit us a few weeks ago and I love visiting with him because he always has girl stories that make me laugh. I think about the time when I wasn’t on the market and my behavior and the behavior of my female peers and it makes me laugh. Sometimes I think girls just don’t change- do they? (In regards to how we behave when it comes to men boys).
Did you see that show on VH1 “What Chili Wants”? Chili, the ‘C’ in TLC had a list of requirements that the man who was going to be in her life needed to have- her friends jokes that she was clearly looking to marry Jesus. Check out our friends list. Ladies, tell me- tell him rather what you think about it. Is this realistic? Is he gonna find that woman? Or should he stop using this list as a guide and let his heart tell him who’s right?
- She cannot smoke.
- Have a life plan (as far as what she wants out of it).
- No kids would be great, but I can handle one.
- Outgoing personality.
- As smart or smarter than me (that playing dumb shit is not cute).
- Has to care about her appearance.
- Has to have sex appeal.
- Have some kind of morals.
- Has to make her own money.
- Has to be a good mixture of hood & classy.
And this is not even digging into the core of his list. I think during our conversation he mentioned so many other things, but these are the only ones we can remember right now.
Oh, and:
11. He needs someone who can pick him up from the airport on time
(My favorite, by far! LOL I am QUEEN of being late… my husband’s not a fan of that)
This is just part one, the next funny story I want to tell you (in another blog post) is about the girl who thought she was his girlfriend… keyword thought.
So, what do you think? What’s up with people and lists lately? Do you have a list? Is is realistic?
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LOL…somehow I think I know the “20 something friend” you are talking about. I actually don’t think his list is that far fetched. Heck I pretty much a have all of those qualities except number 11. Hell, I have a hard time just making it to work everyday on time…and I’m taken so that defeats the purpose. However, I think it is okay to have a list as long as you don’t swear by it. It’s one thing if you have characteristics in mind of what you want that special person to have but in line with Tina’s comment, you can’t just disregard a good girl if she doesn’t have one or two of the characteristics on the list. You may end up missing out on a good thing.
well personally I like lists. It helps me make my thoughts tangilble.
I think his list is sensible for the most part. However they would have to be so in tune with the whole no kids thing – now that’s a big one. It is good to have lists but it is even better to be flexible and go with your heart.
Lucy´s last [type] ..Operation TTC
I think certain standards are important. You get to a point in your life and you just know that you need certain things to be true. They are make or break things for you. I think its important not to bury those beliefs because they will come out eventually. However, I also think there is no such thing as a life plan…at least not one you can completely follow, and if you start with your list instead of starting with openess you might just come to final conclusions about someone before you really know them at all.
I agree with your friend. I have 2 lists. One for the special person who will try to come into my life, and one if the doctors tell me I am going to die. Makes a lot of sense to me.
I’m definitely not a list kind of person when it came to finding someone. I trusted my gut, every single time. Granted, I’ve only been married once, but I trusted my gut with every relationship. If it felt right, I just knew. Even if it was only temporary. Everything is a learning experience, right? I just hope that when your friend does find the girl that knocks his socks off, he doesn’t dump her because she failed an item on his list!
Tina´s last [type] ..A Bittersweet Existence
Thanks, Tina. Me too. He’s sweet, we want him to be happy.